Sunday, January 25, 2015

Sunday Night WIth "Scott Binsack" Presents: The Narcissist ~~ "In Love With The Enemy"



Are you in love with or living with a narcissist?

Narcissus was a figure in Greek mythology; a hunter who was renowned for his incredible beauty. A mountain nymph named Echo feel in love with Narcissus, but he was preoccupied with himself and his unmatched beauty.

Emotionally unavailable, Narcissus broke Echo's heart and as often happens with juicy rumors, word of Echo's heartbreak spread across the land. Ultimately, Nemesis --- the god of revenge --- heard of how Narcissus led Echo to heartbreak and she set out to punish him. She lured Narcissus to a pond, where he became engrossed with his own reflection. Narcissus fell deeply in love with the image and he was destroyed when he realized that it was merely a reflection. The story ultimately ends with Narcissus' suicide.

It's a rather dark tale, but it aptly illustrates many of the workings of the personality disorder known as narcissism.

Let's be clear: it's impossible to be in a healthy relationship with a narcissist. The self-centered nature of a narcissists precludes them from engaging in the give and take that's required for a healthy, mutually-satisfying relationship. But this doesn't stop others from falling in love with a narcissist. It's a pit that I fell into myself.

What is a Narcissist?

To say that a narcissist holds a powerful self-love is put it quite mildly. A narcissist is the epitome of self-aggrandizing; this all-consuming superiority complex impacts every aspect of the narcissist's life. In fact, narcissism is so consuming that it's considered a personality disorder. While a majority of narcissists are men, it's not a condition that's exclusive to men. That's because 25% of narcissists are women.

Narcissists may be cerebral and/or somatic. The cerebral narcissist believes that he or she has superior intellect, while the somatic narcissist is consumed by his or her physical beauty. A number of narcissists are taken with both their physical beauty and their superior intellect, making them a cerebral-somatic hybrid.

There are two sub-types of narcissist too: the vulnerable and the invulnerable narcissist.
A vulnerable narcissist is actually rather sensitive and they may experience depression or anxiety if others fail to treat them as superior beings. The vulnerable narcissist often appears as someone who's vastly under-appreciated; their glory is simply unrecognized by the world at large. This narcissist is often a show-off in an attempt to display his or her superiority.

An invulnerable narcissist is essentially immune to any suggestion that he/she is anything less than superb and superior. This narcissist is unapologetic in her self-confidence and self-importance. If anyone dares to challenge the narcissist, they are met with vicious rage.

Some narcissists are overt, obvious narcissists who embody the most common narcissist stereotype. Others are inverted narcissists, who are parasitic in nature. They feed off another's accomplishments and superiority and adopt this grandness for themselves. An example of this would be the stereotypical wife of a professional athlete or successful businessman. The wife exhibits all of the traits of narcissism, but she doesn't want the control. She believes she's entitled to enjoy all the fruits of her husband's labor --- the respect, the status, the money --- despite the fact that she's done absolutely nothing to earn or deserve these things.

The Narcissist in a Relationship

This is a bit of a misnomer, as a narcissist never really enters a true relationship. The term 'relationship' implies a give and take. There is no give and take with the narcissist. There's that which the narcissist has; there's that which he or she wants. The narcissist's world revolves around fulfilling his desires --- whatever they may be --- because he deserves it. The narcissist adamantly believes he or she is worthy and deserving of all things wonderful and superior.

In a relationship, a narcissist cares about his or her own needs; there's no consideration for the other person. Any façade of caring can usually be traced back to the narcissist's self interests. For instance, a narcissist may do something kind for their partner, but that kindness isn't rooted in love or a desire to please their partner; it's rooted in a desire to manipulate the partner into doing something that benefits the narcissist. Manipulation is key for the narcissist, who puppets others in an attempt to fulfill his or her own interests.

If a narcissist doesn't receive the love, adoration and respect that he or she feels is deserved, then they tend to get quite nasty. Increasing dominance is commonplace, as the narcissist over-compensates in an attempt to reinforce their importance and all-around fabulousness.

Does any of this sound familiar?

If so, then you probably know that attempting to maintain a relationship with a narcissist is a challenging task that often ends in heartbreak, just like the story of Narcissus and Echo. And some cases are equally deadly.

But if you survive your encounter with the narcissist, you'll ultimately have a realization. You'll realize that you were in love with a narcissist. And it's a realization that can bring about a great deal of insight --- insight that we'll discuss in this week's episode of Sunday Night With " Scott Binsack"

So tune in with "Scott Binsack" as we explore narcissism, what it means to attempt a 'relationship' with a narcissist and how an encounter with this personality disorder can impact your life in a very profound manner. It's an important show that simply cannot be missed!












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Saturday, January 24, 2015

Build a Life You Don't Need a Vacation From "Scott Binsack" Presents: The Rain Maker Mentorship Program














The Rain Maker Mentorship Program

“You can't do epic shit with basic people.” ~ Scott J. Binsack
...
Does an exceptional, extraordinary person dwell within you, just waiting to emerge and reach his full potential?

Are you ready to transform, improve and revitalize your life on a personal and professional level?

It's time to discover your full potential. Stop sitting on the sidelines and start truly living.

The #RainMaker can help.

CEO, entrepreneur, motivational speaker, social media personality, investor, professional mentor and soon-to-be author "Scott Binsack" presents The Rain Maker, a unique, one-on-one mentor program that provides the insight you need to succeed and exceed expectations of excellence at every pass, both on a personal and a professional level.

Scott gives you the helping hand you need to make those dreams a reality. He offers his unique and powerful insights in a one-on-one setting, delivered in his trademark hard-hitting, no-nonsense style. It's everything you need to rise to the top.

But The Rain Maker isn't a program for just anyone.

It's a program for unique, dynamic and determined individuals; individuals who refuse to settle for mediocrity or status quo.

It's for individuals who demand excellence in every aspect of life, both personally and professionally.

It's a program for incredible, gifted individuals who need wisdom and guidance as they walk through the labyrinth of life.

To say that "Scott Binsack" has been through it all would be a profound understatement. He started life in an environment of abuse and grew up to become a homeless teen who dropped out of school at age 15.

But Scott isn't an ordinary man and he wasn't satisfied to live an ordinary life. He's an exceptional individual who dreamt of living an extraordinary life. So Scott clawed his way to the top of his field, finding happiness and earning millions by the time he was in his mid-20s.

Then, his world came crashing down. Scott lost it all in a brutal, much-publicized fall from grace.

A survivor at heart, Scott refused to accept defeat. He rose to re-claim and re-build both his life and his career, ultimately achieving an entirely new level of professional success and personal happiness.

Now, this modern day renaissance man is here to share his hard-earned insights with others. Scott's coaching and mentoring can take many forms, from guiding professionals to the next stage in their career, to helping clients as they build (or re-build) themselves, their personal identity and their personal brand from the ground up.

This is more than a professional development program. This is a transformative, one-of-a-kind opportunity that has the power to change your life in a very profound manner.

Renowned for his candid, telling-it-like-it-is approach, Scott Binsack serves as a dynamic professional consultant and mentor, providing comprehensive one-on-one attention as he guides his clients down the path to true all-encompassing success.

From personal development and finance, to networking, re-invention, search engine optimization, social media, marketing, investing and so much more, Scott will work with you as you strive to reach your full potential in every area of your life. It's the ultimate program for those who strive to transform and improve. It's a program for people who are ready to stop dreaming and start living!

If you're an extraordinary person who refuses to settle for an ordinary existence, The Rain Maker program is for you.

"Scott Binsack" has long dominated his professional field as a top developer and builder.

Today, he's developing and building lives.

It's time to take action and transform your life! Enjoy personalized, one-on-one attention as you as you strive to re-invent your image, realize your full potential in the professional realm, revitalize your online presence and rediscover your life.

Discover what The Rain Maker can do for you. Find out what it means to go from merely surviving to absolutely thriving with this unique one-on-one coaching and mentorship opportunity....an opportunity for simply exceptional individuals and companies.

It's The Rain Maker, presented by "Scott J. Binsack".

Please note that space in this program is limited. To ensure that each client receives the attention they need to succeed, enrollment is limited to 50 clients at any given time, so register today!
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Monday, January 5, 2015

Sunday Night With "Scott Binsack" Presents: Saying I'm Sorry ~~ "Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word"


 
Saying I'm Sorry ~~ "Sorry Seems To Be The Hardest Word"

“Sorry seems to be the hardest word.” ~Elton John
...
When tempers flare or pain and hurts transform into anger, we have a tendency of saying hurtful things; things that we don’t really mean. This is especially true when you have two passionate individuals involved. And the closer your relationship, it seems the nastier and more cutting those words tend to be.

When those hurtful words come tumbling out, there’s no retraction. Just as a bell can’t be un-rung, words can’t be un-said and we’re left to deal with the damage and consequences of words spoken in the heat of the moment.

For those on the receiving end of your words, those emotions can remain raw until you say those two words: “I’m sorry.” But those words only have mending power if they’re backed with genuine emotion. A casual “I’m sorry” is meaningless.

In some cases, a full apology is warranted. So what makes a good apology? It should have three parts:

• I’m sorry;

• It’s my fault (or an acknowledgement of wrong-doing); and

• What can I do to make it right?

Those are the components of a good, effective apology. But again, those words must be backed by genuine emotion. And unfortunately, most people forget the third part — the part when you take action to remedy the situation and the hurts that you’ve caused.

An apology is so much more than just words! An apology says so much more than just “I’m sorry.” It’s an acknowledgement of the fact that you’re not always right. An apology also shows that you truly care about the other person’s welfare and emotional well-being — a point that is essential for any healthy relationship. Apologies also serve to diffuse the situation, while acknowledging and validating the other individual’s feelings and opinions, even if you don’t agree with their perspective.

Equally important is knowing when not to say “I’m sorry.” Not every conflict requires an apology and over-using apologies can diminish their impact. You shouldn’t apologize for having your own emotional needs, for instance. But if you’re aware that the other person is wounded, but aren’t sincerely sorry, then use the opportunity to start a dialogue so you can arrive at a better understanding of each other. This involves actually listening to the other person’s perspective — something we often forget to do in the heat of the moment.

There’s also the timeframe of the apology. Waiting days or weeks will diminish the power of your apology. Don’t allow hurts to linger. And make no mistake: without a good apology, those hurts can and will linger for weeks, months, years — even an entire lifetime. Those words that tumbled out as part of spite and malice-filled tangent can cut through your defenses, becoming embedded deep within your very spirit. And there they will remain until a sincere, genuine apology is offered up and the individual takes action to right the wrongs that led to those hurts.

In today’s episode of Sunday Night With Scott Binsack, we’ll explore apologies and the impact of those two words: “I’m sorry.”

Join “Scott Binsack” as he goes in depth to explore the life experiences and actions that have led him to say “I’m sorry.” We’ll also discuss what we can do to control our anger, so as to avoid saying words that we’ll come to regret. It’s a humbling show and one that simply can’t be missed!


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Thursday, January 1, 2015

Sunday Night With "Scott Binsack" Presents: True Love ~~ "The Man In The Moon"



“If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were.” ~Khalil Gibran
[But is that really true?]

True Love: The Man in the Moon

It's the first show of 2015 and we're going to tackle a tough topic: true love and the story of the man on the moon.

Last February, right around Valentine's Day, we explored a story involving my mother and the man who would ultimately come to be known as the man in the moon.

It's a profoundly moving and emotional story that has impacted me since childhood.

I used to believe in the saying: If you love someone, you should set them free and if they truly love you, they'll return. I no longer believe this. I believe that if someone truly loves you, there will be no reason to set them free; they shouldn't come back after their first choice didn't work out, whatever the choice may be.

People tend to toss around the term 'love' as though it's a casual term. But it's anything but. Love is truly transformative and it's a force that can change your life in the most powerful ways.

I consider myself a hopeless romantic; I believe in true love. I've learned that  many abuse victims like myself find themselves on a lifelong quest to find true love. They're often amongst the individuals with the biggest hearts and the deepest desire to love and be loved --- even if that desire isn't outwardly apparent through the hard, protective shell that many abuse victims develop.

When I first shared this story of the Man in the Moon, I didn't share all of the specifics.
I've since realized that it's a story that must be told --- in its entirety.

Over the past year, it's a story that's taken on new meaning as I myself became a Man in the Moon.
Recent events have transformed my view of life and love. I've come to realize that I was wrong; that love and intimacy aren't the only part of the equation.

There's more.

The Story of the Man in the Moon

My mother was a woman who suffered many traumas in her life. She was from a lower-middle class family that was plagued by dysfunction; a dysfunction that came to a head when she witnessed her father hang her mother from a 13th floor window amidst a drunken rage.

My father was from the other side of the tracks. He came from a prominent and wealthy family.

My parents met at a driver's ed class. My mother said she loved my father, but she wasn't madly in love with him. She got married because that's what was expected; getting married young was the norm.

My mother's true love was a man named Charlie --- a man whom I'd come to know as The Man in the Moon.  Charlie ultimately married another woman, just as my mother had married another man. But their respective marriages were no obstacle and they would meet in secret. Sometimes, I'd wait in the car, parked on the side of the road. I was just three or four years old when I first witnessed my mother in a rare state of pure happiness as she shared intimate moments with this man.

Charlie's moniker --- The Man in the Moon --- was practical yet accurate. He was a man who was ever-present in her life and in her heart, yet in many ways, he was inaccessible. It was a practical term too, since my mother frequently brought me along when she met up with The Man in the Moon. So when my father asked, “What did you do today?”, my honest reply would be a seemingly fanciful: “We saw the Man in the Moon.”

After 14 years of marriage, my parents got divorced. But Charlie never left his wife --- a woman who happened to be one of my mother's best friends.

In time, Charlie and I became friends.

Years passed.

One day, my mother and I met Charlie for lunch. At one point in the meal, my mother left the table, heading for the restroom. I've always been very direct and I asked, “You love my mother. Why won't you leave your wife?”Charlie replied, “I have children, obligations.....But someday, we'll make it work. Someday.”

I knew that he truly loved my mother. And over the years, my mother continued to receive flowers, cards and other tokens of his affections.

They continued to see each other, but Charlie never did leave his wife. In this way, he truly lived up to his moniker, The Man in the Moon, remaining ever present yet inaccessible.

So my mother set out on a mission to find another man. She sought to replicate the intense bond that she shared with Charlie.

But true love was elusive. She re-married and divorced twice.

In the end, my mother was miserable, forever haunted by the forbidden love she shared with The Man in the Moon.

Years later, my father said, “I love your mom, but your mom was always in love with Charlie --- The Man in the Moon. He should have married her.”

The story of The Man in the Moon has led me to realize that love exists separately from intimacy. And if you don't have intimacy --- an incredible bond with another human being --- then you don't have anything.

These are just some of the topics we'll be exploring on the latest episode of Sunday Night With "Scott Binsack". It's a must-see episode; one that will force you to confront and reconsider your views of love, intimacy and true love.












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